In which Stephen faux pas
Jan. 26th, 2009 11:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
chronicpaint So, A is a very good friend of mine. B is a good friend of his. B and I have flirted a bit online, me hitting on him before I remember I met him through A. B and I get as far as exchanging of naughty pictures in preparation, but he decides he's not interested in nookie after all. Fair enough, no harm no foul.
So, tonight, on the phone with A, I jokingly tell him the story of the flirtation. A says he and B have messed around. No "it's a secret, tell no one" Just an off hand comment in a larger conversation and we move on to other things.
After the call, I run into B online and by way of making conversation, say something like "A and I were just talking about you" and continue on to mention what A told me, in a "nudge, nudge, wink, wink, we're all naughty boys here" kind of way.
B is now furious with A for violating his trust by telling me that it happened. And not all that thrilled with me either.
*sigh* Humans are complicated.
I honestly meant no harm. It's not something I think of as any kind of deep, dark secret.
If B stays mad at me, I can live with it. I hardly know him. But the thought that I might have damaged my relationship with A is awful. And the thought that his relationship with B might be damaged too is pretty unpleasant as well. I couldn't reach him by phone tonight to tell him what had happened.
*sigh*
So, tonight, on the phone with A, I jokingly tell him the story of the flirtation. A says he and B have messed around. No "it's a secret, tell no one" Just an off hand comment in a larger conversation and we move on to other things.
After the call, I run into B online and by way of making conversation, say something like "A and I were just talking about you" and continue on to mention what A told me, in a "nudge, nudge, wink, wink, we're all naughty boys here" kind of way.
B is now furious with A for violating his trust by telling me that it happened. And not all that thrilled with me either.
*sigh* Humans are complicated.
I honestly meant no harm. It's not something I think of as any kind of deep, dark secret.
If B stays mad at me, I can live with it. I hardly know him. But the thought that I might have damaged my relationship with A is awful. And the thought that his relationship with B might be damaged too is pretty unpleasant as well. I couldn't reach him by phone tonight to tell him what had happened.
*sigh*